Never listen to people who try to advise you to be someone other than who you truly are. These individuals are simply trying to impose their own biased standards, which rely heavily on labels and categories.
If a recruiter, peer, or manager suggests that you don’t fit in because you’ve achieved too much or have a diverse range of skills and experiences, it’s important not to be discouraged. Their opinions may be influenced by their own fears and biases, which are often rooted in feelings of inadequacy.
Research has shown that shaming is often used as a power play by toxic people. They try to stay in control and appear important by minimising, humiliating, or even eliminating others from their teams or work environment. These individuals often target the best performers as their potential victims, similar to how predators target their prey.
Remember to celebrate your unique talents and achievements, regardless of what others may say. Don’t let anyone dim your light or make you feel ashamed of who you are.
Irreparable Losses
The presence of toxic people and culture within an organisation can have a significant impact on talent retention and overall performance. Research indicates that toxic individuals not only produce lower quality work but can also influence others to exhibit toxic behaviour, which can negatively impact both high and average performers.
Studies have shown that high performers can be up to 400 percent more productive than average performers, but they are often the first to leave a toxic work environment created by a toxic boss or culture. This loss of talent can be detrimental to the organisation’s success and growth. Therefore, employers need to prioritise creating a healthy and positive work environment that fosters employee well-being, job satisfaction, and productivity. This can be achieved through diverse and inclusive recruitment, effective communication, promoting a culture of respect, and providing opportunities for growth and development for all.
What One Can Do
If you are experiencing power games, bullying, manipulation, or pressure at work, it is crucial to take action to protect your well-being. Speaking up and asking for help if needed is the best way to do this.
You can address the issue by bringing it to the attention of human resources, discussing it with people of influence within the organisation, or sharing it with peers who can stand up against it as a group. By taking action, you increase the likelihood of a positive resolution.
It is important to remember that you have the right to a safe and respectful work environment. Don’t be afraid to assert your boundaries and advocate for yourself. Seeking support from trusted friends, family members, or a professional therapist can also be helpful in coping with the impact of a toxic work environment.
What I Can Do
If you have been facing a challenging situation at work and need some support, I am here to help. With my expertise and experience, I can work with you to identify the root cause of the problem, develop strategies to address it, and provide ongoing support to help you achieve your goals.
Feel free to call me on +44 (0) 77 8390 8571 or send me an email for a confidential and impartial advice.
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